Don’t leave it too late to tell someone that you LOVE them!!
Don’t leave it too late
to tell someone that you
LOVE them!!
Although improving, one of the things we Brits are not very good at is expressing our feelings. We were brought up to “keep a stiff upper lip” – and anyone who watched the Netflix series “The Crown” will know our own Royal Family tended to show very few emotions.
For those who remembered seeing the funeral of Princess Diana on September 6th, 1997, will perhaps remember the then young Prince William and Prince Harry walking behind the hearse looking totally forlorn – why didn’t their father, Prince Charles, reach out and hold their hands or put his arm around their shoulders?
Expressing our love is so important – when was the last time you told that special person in your life that you really love them?
I recall reading a quotation many years ago when told if you only had a week to live, who would you call, what would you say - and why aren’t you doing it?
As a healer, I often support clients going through a grieving process and it is sad to hear that they have regrets - “If only I had told them………..” or “The last time we spoke I said things I wish I hadn’t said” or “I should have told them how much I love them” etc.
I wonder how many relationships fail to flourish because no one could be bothered to say those few magical words. There is a price to pay for not making the attempt. You may suffer a lost connection or never learn from having made a mistake. Either way, by not expressing your love, you may create a situation you will always regret.
To love and to feel loved is important. And, to express those sentiments and be the recipient of such actions confirming love are essential in cementing the love and the bonds with those close to us. Gestures of affection help an individual more easily feel the love that someone has for them.
In a marriage, for want of expression, love may dwindle and disappear altogether, and romance may fade.
As you know, when you are the recipient of being told that someone loves you it boosts your self-esteem and confidence, making you feel valued and cherished.
From a health perspective hearing the words "I love you" can have a positive impact on a person's overall well-being. It releases feel-good hormones like oxytocin and dopamine, promoting feelings of happiness and reducing stress.
Here is a comment from a reader in the HuffPost a while back:
“This is eerily timed -- my wife and I have been married for 28 years, and like in lots of marriages, we've grown distant over the years. Small slights unforgiven and little insensitive words unforgotten have built a wall, then outright resentment.
She's smarter than I am, and she realized we had to do better, so she opened up the conversation by telling me that she was unhappy and felt that I was closed off and hostile.
She was right, of course. I don't express myself well, but I tried to run through the laundry list of all the things I didn't like about our relationship, then for some reason, I started telling her about the first time I ever saw her face -- and how I fell in love with her right there. Within five minutes of meeting her, I was in love -- and it's the ultimate sin, the absolute worst thing a person who's living on the earth can do, to push that love down under the pressure of so many irrelevant things.
When I look at her face today, I see exactly the same 20-year-old I saw the first time. If I live in anything but gratitude and amazement that such a thing could happen to me, I'm living the pinnacle of human failure.”
A sad realization – but hopefully not too late. When partners actively express love and kindness, it creates an atmosphere of positivity that benefits both individuals and the relationship as a whole.
In essence, keeping love alive in a relationship requires ongoing effort, attention, and nurturing. It involves showing appreciation, practicing active listening, engaging in meaningful activities together, and consistently expressing affection. By prioritizing the maintenance of love, partners can enjoy a deep and fulfilling connection that enriches their lives and strengthens their relationship for ever.
So, if you are going through a challenging time in your relationship, cast your mind back to the first time you met – feel the feelings you experienced at that time – and perhaps resurrect those deep feelings and bring them into the present.
This form of self-healing can work wonders – get yourself back on track – listen more to your partner, see things from their point of view – and don’t take life too seriously.
It’s probably well worth it.
Remember – no one can extinguish the light that shines within each one of us.
Try it and see.
With Love & Light
Roger
“No one can dim the light that shines within”
“Each one of us has the ability to heal ourselves - and others. That gift, which is often dormant, can be awakened and used to transform our lives, and those around us, into something remarkable”