Why did we find it so difficult to let go?

Why did we find it so difficult to let go?

Many of us struggle with letting go of past events – situations, relationships, etc because on some level we feel as if we have failed.

We get into the “I wonder if I had done this or that differently all would have turned out well” frame of mind.

On a logical level we are fully aware of the benefits of letting go – but somehow find it difficult to do so.

In my own life, my Dad died at an early age with lung cancer – he was a heavy smoker and had surgery to remove one of his lungs.

He was told the other lung was clear – only to be told two weeks later the cancer was also in that lung and there was little they could do about it.

In the last few days, he suffered tremendously but kept hanging on to life despite his pain, even though he was aware death was near.

Watching him suffer and sharing with my three brothers our time with him so he was never alone, I remember saying a prayer that he would make his transition and be out of pain.

Early the following morning he passed and guess what – I felt guilty about asking for his release.

Letting go of those feelings of guilt was difficult even though I knew he was no longer suffering.

Knowing that ultimately the time of our transition has nothing to do with us, did not for many years ease my feeling of guilt.

What did release me from those feelings?

I started to explore and tried to have a better understanding as to why he died so young and so I went to various spiritualist churches in England to find an answer.

Each time I attended a service I was told that I was a healer and had a healing gift.

Back in the early 1980s, very little information was available – there were few books and no internet – but a long story short I found a group in Glastonbury and started to develop my gift and then spent 2 years training in Surrey to become a certified energy healer.

I then started to “join the dots” and realized that perhaps the reason my Dad died early was to give me an opportunity to explore the meaning of life and death a bit more, and to realize my healing gift.

To me, this was his gift to me.

Once I understood this, I was able to let go of any guilt I had felt, and become at ease.

So, maybe if you are still hanging on to “stuff” look a little deeper and appreciate what lessons you have learned and then you too will be able to let go.

Try it and see!

“Each one of us has the ability to heal ourselves and others.  That gift, which is often dormant, can be awakened and used to transform our lives, and those around us, into something remarkable”