Don’t be Held Back by a State of Non-forgiveness
Don’t be Held Back by
a State of Non-forgiveness
Self Healing
Forgiveness means different things to different people. Generally, however, it involves a decision to let go of resentment and thoughts of revenge.
The act that hurt or offended you might always be with you, but forgiveness can lessen its grip on you and help free you from the control of the person who harmed you. Forgiveness can even lead to feelings of understanding, empathy and compassion for the one who hurt you – strange as it may seem.
Forgiveness doesn't mean forgetting or excusing the harm done to you or making up with the person who caused the harm. Forgiveness brings a kind of peace that helps you go on with life.
Whilst forgiving may not be easy, it certainly makes your life more healthy by giving you less anxiety, stress, lowers blood pressure, improves your immune system and definitely helps your self-esteem.
I think we all feel strongly about any injustice in our lives – and in many ways when people we love hurt us, we feel it is totally unjust, sad and often confusing.
I will share with you the NLP Forgiveness Process technique my wife Kim used to help me forgive my business partner – and I have used it on many clients who have come for healing. It definitely helped me let go of all the negative emotions about him I had been storing for years! This process was developed by Tim Holbom and Suzi Smith.
Be clear about the person or situation you want to clear
Imagine that person in the same room as yourself but with a thick sheet of Plexiglass between you
In a detached way, ask what resources did they lack in order for them to have behaved differently (unconditional love, confidence, lack of self esteem etc.)
Send them the resource that you felt they need – see them receiving these resources, notice how they would behave, what they would say and how they would react with these new resources.
When they have all the resources say “I forgive you”
Then notice where in your body you have been hooked into this situation and unhook these hooks, hand them back to the person you are forgiving and say “with love these are yours”
Repeat until you have no more hooks
Surround the person you are forgiving in a bubble of light and let them go.
Surround yourself in a bubble of light and feel completeness of your energy returning.
It may be necessary to repeat the process a couple of times – but having experienced the positive outcome personally – just try it!
With love & Light,
Roger