Don’t be Afraid to tell Someone you Love Them!
Don’t be Afraid to
tell Someone
you Love Them!
Self Healing
One of the things the Brits are not very good at is expressing their feelings. We were brought up to “keep a stiff upper lip” – and anyone watching “The Crown” will know our own Royal Family tend to show very few emotions.
For those who watched the funeral of Princess Diana on September 6th, 1997 will perhaps remember the young Prince William and Prince Harry walking behind the hearse looking totally forlorn – why didn’t Prince Charles reach out and hold their hands or put his arm around their shoulders?
Expressing our love is so important – when was the last time you told that special person in your life that you really love them?
I wonder how many relationships fail to flourish because no one could be bothered to say those few magical words. There is a price to pay for not making the attempt. You may suffer a lost connection or never learn from having made a mistake. Either way, not expressing your love, you are the less for holding back where you might have given.
To love and to feel loved is important. And, to express those sentiments and be the recipient of such actions confirming love are essential in cementing the love and the bonds with those close to us. Gestures of affection help an individual more easily feel the love that someone has for them.
In a marriage, for want of expression, love may dwindle and disappear altogether. And romance may fade.
Here is a comment from a reader in the HuffPost a while back:
This is eerily timed -- my wife and I have been married for 28 years, and like in lots of marriages, we've grown distant over the years. Small slights unforgiven and little insensitive words unforgotten have built a wall, then outright resentment.
She's smarter than I am, and she realized we had to do better, so she opened up the conversation by telling me that she was unhappy and felt that I was closed off and hostile.
She was right, of course. I don't express myself well, but I tried to run through the laundry list of all the things I didn't like about our relationship, then for some reason, I started telling her about the first time I ever saw her face -- and how I fell in love with her right there. Within five minutes of meeting her, I was in love -- and it's the ultimate sin, the absolute worst thing a person who's living on the Earth can do, to push that love down under the swill of resentment over irrelevant things.
When I look at her face today, I see exactly the same 20-year-old I saw the first time. If I live in anything but gratitude and amazement that such a thing could happen to me, I'm living the pinnacle of human failure.
A sad realization – but hopefully not too late.
Many well-known personalities have to be apart from their significant other – and when asked how they make their relationships work there seems to be a common theme.
Prince Harry is quoted as saying” "I think we were able to really have so much time just to connect and we never went longer than two weeks without seeing each other, even though we were obviously doing a long-distance relationship. So [that's how] — we made it work."
Ashley Graham from Forbes magazine says "We have a rule. We don't go longer than two weeks without seeing each other. It's absolutely fabulous. I love it. We just meet in L.A. or New York. We meet in Paris, Miami. It's pretty sexy."
Nick Offerman and Megan Mullally say "First of all, we have a rule to never be apart for more than two weeks. We feel that a relationship if one makes it their top priority must take precedence over matters of locale."
So, if you are going through a challenging time in your relationship, cast your mind back to the first time you met – feel the feelings you experienced at that time – and perhaps resurrect those deep feelings and bring them into the present.
This form of self-healing can work wonders – get yourself back on track – listen more to your partner, see things from their point of view – and don’t take life too seriously.
It’s probably well worth it.
Remember – no one can extinguish the light that shines within each one of us.
With Love & Light,
Roger